Cliques and the State of Oneness

Do you remember attending junior high school and the experience of group formations? 

Junior high is the most earliest environment for fostering cliques and determining who belongs with who. From those two years of early adult experience, many personalities are conditioned to align with what they think is correct or they learn to cultivate a behavior that adapts so that they will be included, even in the wrong group or special clique. 

Further observation finds that usually, the head of a clique is the most beautiful female in the environment and most likely, comes from a wealthy family providing the means to establish power in some way. This is where the great divide occurs and is fostered between castes, religions and the determination of popularity. It’s interesting to note too, the male with the greatest strength usually, becomes the most sought after in the budding attraction of the female clique. The animal nature rules this natural human inclination while the spirit of oneness is buried deep below this immature, unconscious, selection process. The most beautiful female with strength and power matures into preparation for mating with the strongest male, unconsciously in a very predictable way.  The way of the animal nature, the herd instinct inside human form supporting survival of the fittest and natural DNA selection, is the movement of the social clique conditioning social behavior. This social process naturally fosters the level of self-confidence or insecurity in each human as it colors the experience of life at an early age.

Intelligence, integrity and morality of character is irrelevant in cliques.

Recalling my seventh grade year and the cliques that formed around me, a few of the girls had decided that a style of shirt would become the signature emblem of this special group of friends. I wanted to so badly to be accepted and part of the “cool girls” group that I bought the shirt too. However, the shirt wasn’t that attractive and it quickly got pushed to the back of my dresser drawer. It also became obvious that I was not fitting in as they began to make fun of me as a way to say, “You’re not one of us”. Over time, I was coalesced into a small, unpopular group comprised of three students: a genius boy who was too smart to be one of the “in” crowd, a slightly unattractive, overweight girl who was very, very sweet and me, the odd one who didn’t fit in anywhere. 

Those nasty clique girls made fun of all three of us terribly. I watched the young, sweet, slightly overweight girl moved to tears many times and the young, genius boy isolated and slightly freaked. Often, I created a condition of illness like a headache or stomach ache just so my grandmother would come and pick me up and save me from the horrible pressure of being forced into an environment that lacked compassion, love or natural joy. The three of us isolated characters bonded and held each other, unconsciously, in a space of acceptance while we did what we could to gain approval of the teachers grading our work. It was a really, really strange experience and somewhat devastating as a gateway for entering into society and blossoming into adulthood. 

From that point forward, there were many intense social experiences where I was isolated and considered the “odd one out”.  If the attention is on the odd one, perhaps no one will see how corrupt and out of oneness the others are, I have found.

I use the word “corrupt” because often, those who expend great effort to divide and separate, isolating others out are the ones who are dipping into the cash drawer, taking more than they need, covering up their untruths and terribly out of integrity. Scapegoating is a classic way to divert attention while greed is in action. Scapegoating is the hallmark of the great divide.

Living in an ashram and engaging in spiritual social collectives, as I do, adds another entirely new experience to cliques. Although the disciplines, teachings and leadership of responsible figureheads are at hand, there is also a tremendously powerful organization and display of “cliques”. In one sense, it can be even worse because of the expectations upon entering such an environment. One would think that in a spiritual community such as an ashram that the state of oneness must exist and be present fully. After all, most spiritual leaders purport to be enlightened, and with such a person in leadership one would also expect to see the same surrounding them.  

As my Guru once said during darshan: there are some who are in a state of oneness near me and there are some who are not.

Just recently, a group of girls who live at this special ashram presented a photo of them all dressed in the same color of sari with a caption reading: “The Pink Girls”.  A haunting revisit from the past as each wore the same color of sari, decorated with similar trinkets and similar hair style.

Nothing has changed. Still, the cliques remain with the desperate attempt to bond through sameness, avoiding the celebration of uniqueness. Even in a so-called spiritual environment that fosters consciousness and the pursuit of individual expression as one is designed for the benefit of the whole. It’s tricky dialing in that special place of “oneness”.

So, we find that oneness is not the unity of a spiritual community, as some may interpret. Rather, this blessed state of oneness that eludes most is a personal state within one’s own being. For in spiritual communities, usually, we find that there is more judgment and elitism, jealousy, comparing and competition within a self-righteous clique than there is compassion, love or enriching, all attributes of the state of oneness. 

Spirit rises above and beyond this petty human activity that is completely unrelated to consciousness and the development of radiation, spiritual power and divine grace.  

Through the lens of astrology, from an esoteric perspective, you can see that the cosmic design for the human experience is based on cultivating deep humility and wide, overflowing compassion. As these qualities develop in character, gradually, the being enters into a state of oneness within and a deep space of peace. 

Ultimately, we can see that reaching our highest expression is directly related to the relationship that we have with ourself. Naturally, oneness rises above the petty, dramatic happenings of the social atmosphere and liberates us into our own ecstasy, our peaceful place and the beauty of nature surrounding us. This happens when we learn how to create our own spiritual atmosphere.

As one ascends the ladder of consciousness or rather, expands in the direction of oneness, everything becomes more beautiful, more peaceful and more relaxed. Oneness also works with forces unseen yet very present and available, happy to assist in the elevation of life experience, transporting us beyond the complexities of natural DNA selection inherent in the human condition and social nature. 

Realizing divinity and deeply entangled with the cosmic source of consciousness, unleashed from petty social cliques and the constraints of tradition and its expectations, oneness enjoys bliss in a space of gratitude and undaunted self-love, which naturally overflows towards all that are near.

The ancient science of yoga beautifully leads one on this path towards oneness and into the divine state of grace that naturally moves one beyond the social DNA cliques. Meditation is the key that unlocks the door to set one free as it integrates the union of three: body, mind and spirit. 

May your kundalini be awakened.