There are common ego games in the matrix that happen with all interaction to some degree, while creating tremendous hell and difficulty for everyone. These petty games are responsible for most of the pain that humans endure.
These games are unfortunate happenings because they are precisely what foster a lot of the negative, dark energies that color most people’s reality, feeding the insanity brewing on this planet. It also slows down the spiritual maturation evolutionary process, tremendously.
In society, we find the behavior of personalities colored with competition, jealousy, gossip and back-biting, attacking another’s character and disempowering them in some way. Through orchestrating defeating situations, the arrogant one or the fearful, or the intimidated one manipulates events and circumstances to gain power over the other. This is the nature of relating socially and intimately, for most humans.
All low-frequency behaviors feed on anothers’ energy unconsciously, and sometimes consciously. This is the nature of the emotional, astral body: to stimulate an emotional reaction from the other and then feed on the elixir of nervous energy that is being released in some way, by the one who is being attacked. A demonic person will know how to strategize to get the emotional reaction and then, gloat in the glory of the feeding.
Another passively unkind behavior is avoiding and/or ignoring the emotional entanglements that create “bad vibes” such as, denial. It is like throwing fuel on the fire of incompletion or unfinished business. Its all bad, bad, bad energy that just keeps whirling around toxifying the planet and causing human evolution to move very slowly.
If more people practiced the art of completion, there would be so much less “dirty laundry” and the planet would have such a sweeter vibe.
One of the most powerful techniques for clearing this seemingly “dark” emotional energy whirling around is the ancient method taught in the Bhagavad Gita for maturing spiritually. This powerful method for healing and evolving one’s personal system is directly attending to emotional baggage swimming around in the mind causing distortion in the way a person perceives reality and experiences relating. Most people are creating and collecting more challenging karma rather than cleaning it out of their system and raising their frequency, hence, the ongoing human experience that keeps one locked in the cycle of death and rebirth. Humans only have so much life force to deal with so much crap.
Even if a small, group community began to practice this ancient technique of completion and clearing emotional baggage daily, truly, I believe that life on this planet would improve radically, quickly. Most people are reluctant to expand and evolve or take responsibility for their own reality, which is precisely what this method encourages. Many choose to remain in what they perceive to be a comfort zone of familiarity and the addiction to intimate relationships. Perhaps this is why sages choose to live far away from society and deep in the forest or high up on the mountain top where it is peaceful and free of this delusional reality.
Recently, my Guru made a statement: “Don’t make me responsible for your stupidity”
Whoa – Brilliant.
Hearing this caused me to pause and ponder the profundity of what was just imparted.
It also immediately brought to mind one of my family members who often spoke the words: “It’s in the Lord’s hands – he will take of care of it”
When I would hear this statement, I would think to myself: “Why can’t they just make a decision and take this situation into a better direction?”
Every time they repeated this statement, putting life in the lords hands, avoiding responsibility for their stupidity, I would cringe. Now I know why, they were placing the responsibility for their behavior, their decisions and their lack of accountability on some one else. They also died a miserable, sad, painful death because they refused to face how their decision-making was impacting and creating their reality.
This is precisely why I call this lack of responsibility and its companion, “blame”, the number one insanity. Avoiding responsibility and placing blame on another is outrageously insane and toxic to the human social experience. It just keeps us stupid and unaware when we choose not to use intelligent navigation and decide someone else is responsible for our behavior, our thoughts, actions and decisions.
Since hearing this statement most recently, I have been observing how I think, speak and navigate and how much of it tends to be colored by blame or the tendency to avoid taking responsibility. I don’t want to be stupid anymore. For this reason, if something feels slightly off, unkind or unfair, I look to see what kind of stupid decision was made to create the unpleasant situation in the first place. Next, I look to see how I could have made a better decision and apply that realization as a training ground for my mind to cognize differently, from a place of higher intelligence, higher awareness that is more kind to me, in the long run. Responsibility equals better decision which brings the right people, the right environment and much better life experiences.
The key here, I have found, is to remove delusion. That’s tough to do because it demands spiritual maturation and independent, autonomy for one’s well being while managing desires and clearing distorted conditioning. This goes against the nature of tradition and how most of us have been taught to think and behave. For the matrix, the program has been designed to feed on the delusion that is spurred by our desires. All advertising and marketing is based on this delusion that is built on the basis of desire, which is often, very disempowering.
Instead of being responsible, mature adults in our interaction, we become puppets of insanity distracted from true relating and far from real, loving, honest, mature, compassionate, comrades that could be possible in human relating and conversation.
For the next week try these few exercise to mature your thinking, actions and speaking :
1) Observe how many times you place blame on another for your own behavior or experiences
2) Observe how many times you move according to your desires – instead of higher intelligence
3) Observe how many times you speak about someone unkindly (gossip) or highlight a persons weakness to another in conversation
4) Ponder the results of how you have navigated and the decisions that you have made over the past year
5) Observe your state of health and how it is impacted by the company of those who you choose to spend time with
6) Observe how your body reacts to the foods that you eat
7) Observe what kind of input your are conditioning your mind with on a regular basis, i.e.: music, TV, movies, social media, etc. and how it is creating your thoughts, shaping your character, feeding your desires and delusions.
For instance, in a recent conversation with an acquaintance, repeatedly they used degrading titles when referring to others. A mutual friend standing near insisted that this acquaintance use peoples names when referring to them rather than the degrading title that was being used in conversation half-hazardly.
As the evening went on, awareness grew inside the acquaintance as she realized how social media was shaping her character, her speech and her quality of social interaction causing her to use these degrading titles as a social standard.
Dr Moto’s work regarding the influence on crystal formations of water influenced by words proves that what we speak, hear and think ultimately shapes our reality. After all, the human body is approximately 90% water. Imagine the impact of harshly spoken words, ill-intent or degrading lyrics, horror movies, spiteful lies or lusty cries.
Let’s put some effort forth to engage in mindful, mature conversation this week. Let this change begin with us, here, through engaging in this mindful practice starting this week with the observation exercises outlined above.
Reflecting on the Yamas and Niyamas while applying these exercises can radically mature any human. Still, to this day, these ancient higher principles can be applied and used for how one behaves, chooses and interacts and can be considered as one of the most effective methods for shaping a beautiful, loving, kind, mature character. Keep these principles in mind as a foundational reference point as you move about in your day-to-day activities and interact with others.