Tantra and Compassion

With the upsurge in spiritual interests, the practice of yoga, the desire to incorporate meditation into a hectic daily life and the increasing number of professional spiritual teachers, an undercurrent to this new era of humanity is the evolution of romantic love. 

Although, many may not articulate or demonstrate evolved love nor even recognize its mutation. For this accelerated, improved model of love operates very differently from the factors of attraction and the common practice of romance and sexuality. 

Still, mainstream yoga audiences are greatly attracted to the facade of what many western yogis refer to as “Tantra”, a term used for what they describe as a spiritual sexual practice. Actually, nothing could be farther from the truth. Tantra is not a sexual practice at all. Yet, many use this word to describe a type of intimate relating that incorporates greater awareness into sexual union. Many contemporary authors have used this term to introduce the concept of spiritual sexual intimacy and terribly misled the western audience and their understanding of the true meaning of tantra. 

To understand the true meaning of tantra, we dive into the ancient Hindu teachings for how this term became the buzz word for sexuality. Then we can uncover the true, hidden meaning of tantra. 

The original, ancient scriptures of tantra stem from a conversation that took place between Shiva and Parvati, his consort who sits on his left thigh depicted in many Hindu art images portraying these two archetypes. From the conversation that occurred between these two as it is written in many of the ancient texts, the term tantra became the word to describe sacred sensuality for the householder. 

Only those residing in expanded state of awareness understood the elliptical meaning behind the stories imparted through these two archetypes of cosmic forces unrelated to any kind of sexuality. 

For In the ancient Hindu philosophies, Tantra is monistic in nature, it is not dual as it often used to represent in sacred sexuality. Rather, the cosmos itself is unchanging, infinite, immanent and transcendental in nature.

Please do not misunderstand me, for utilizing these spiritual archetypes as the models for romance has its merits for initiating an understanding of mature loving.

For the householder or the contemporary lover, the dance of Shiva and Shakti represents the role of female and male much like how they are portrayed in the article I wrote here.

In the ancient tradition, there are two terms used to identify consciousness (Shiva) and self-aware consciousness (Shakti). The purpose of Tantra is to explain how these two aspects are actually one and the same. If they were two different aspects as the mind tends to view, then they reside in dualism, an attribute of the program or maya. However, when used to identify male and female forces in the program, it assists with understanding how the two forces of masculine and feminine, yin and yang operate in the space of duality working towards harmonic existence.

We learn how to balance this dualistic nature of these two forces, male and female,  through the understanding of Ida and Pingala or Odic and Actinic forces. You can read more about these forces in this article (Odic and Actinic forces) and in this article (Integration of male and female forces)

In ancient Hindu teachings, the force of Shiva is used to portray the strong masculine energy that goes through a process of feminization in order to embrace consciousness. The man must become soft, compassionate, loving and nurturing in order to realize consciousness. This is not a natural state for the common man for he is often, pushed into the role of provider, protector and defender as his body is designed to be and a warrior who is aggressive, lustful and full of desire to dominate and control his immediate environment.

In the ancient Tantric tradition, Shakti or Divine Mother or The One Great Mother has the ability to free the individual from the constraints of the ego, ignorance, desire and all that binds the soul. This feminine power is what frees us from the cycle of karma and has the ability to erase the past, remove attachments and individualize a being, unifying integral forces inherent in the conscious being. 

We view this cosmic divine feminine force through the teachings of the goddess Parvati for gaining power of manifestation, in Lakshmi for gaining wealth, in Saraswati for knowledge, in Kali for destruction of evil and the impetus for transformation. There are many aspects of the Divine Cosmic Mother represented in various sects of Hinduism as well as Buddhism, Jainism and other similar ancient religions. You can read more about the various aspects of Divine Mother here

In certain factions of Hinduism and Buddhism, we find The Mother Goddess as a compliment to the masculine gods such as Parvati with Shiva, Saraswati with Brahma and Lakshmi with Vishnu and so on. All of these archetypes hold a hidden message for how consciousness grows inside the human form in various ways unique to how one is designed to experience the integration of body with spirit consciousness.

In the ancient text, Devi Upanishad, Shakti is recognized as the ultimate reality and from her rises matter, consciousness, bliss and non-bliss and so on. She is also recognized as the creative power of Shiva in a few of the Upanishads, which are sacred, holy Hindu texts. 

In this era known as “Kali Yuga”, a time of darkness on our planet, Shiva is the savior who initiates the golden age, therefore, the agent for transforming the human condition and leading a portion of humanity out of darkness and into harmonious, cooperative state of oneness. Masculine energy must be transformed in order for peace to be established on our planet earth. There has been too much war, greed, lack of compassion and ignorance. Shiva is real and is a cosmic force that we can rely upon to transform our aggressive, egoistic, ignorant nature into a higher state of consciousness. 

In the teachings shared by my beloved Guru, Sri Nithyananda Paramashivam, he imparts that in order for a person to experience romance, they must feel as though the other is equal to them. 

In higher states of consciousness, it is not possible to feel as though the other is equal because a conscious being  can see where the problems rest inside of the other. They can see what is causing turmoil, challenging life experiences and the state of the emotional nature. The conscious person can see the whole person: the past of the individual, the possibilities for the future and the imbalances of the system physically, emotionally and spiritually. There is no way that a conscious person who is fully integrated of male and female energies, embrace another as an equal. 

They are also aware of what happens to the mechanics of an aura when it is engaged in sexual union. It changes the condition of the subtle body greatly.

Instead, what operates inside the conscious being is compassion outside of a specific gender role.

This is the true practice of Tantra, integrated cosmic forces within while expressing deep compassion for the other without the influence of hormones or the social pressures of the program. 

The true meaning of Tantra is expansion, not contraction and represents a state of oneness with consciousness.

The Merging of Shiva and Shakti, for the householder

Shiva and Shakti, the dance of the male and female energies

For eons, humans have interpreted this divine union to represent the relationship of two lovers. And in one sense, in a healthy sense it does represent male and female energies. The human impetus is to perceive Shiva and Shakti representing the desire for sexuality and attachment, the union of two becoming one.

This desire for merging comes from the space of deep yearning inside one’s being for the union of spirit with matter, which Shiva and Shakti ultimately represent.

A natural, evolutionary human process is to perfect the relationship between man and woman, and the dual forces of masculine and feminine energies within one’s own being.

Ultimately, Shiva represents the male counterpart as the provider and protector of his household. Naturally, the male psychology and physiology is equipped to handle the stress and demands for maintaining material and emotional security for his loved one’s on the plane of Maya, the program, the matrix.

The home is the domain of the female as the mistress under the covering of the male protective force in the same way as Shakti sits comfortably guarded on the left knee of Shiva. The left side of the body is recognized as the feminine, passive side of human form.

This relationship is further played out and seen on the subtle plane through the Ida and Pingala forces in the right and left side of the subtle body in form. Naturally, these cosmic forces play out inside one’s body in accordance to the state of the relationship in the home of the couple.

If the forces of Ida and Pingala are not in balance inside the form of each lover, there are arguments, rude, harsh words, back-biting, cheating, lying and manipulation. It gets very unpleasant when there is no balance in the relationship. It creates a vexatious, troublesome environment to live and breathe in. It feels miserable, makes one ill and creates a place of hell in the home.

The male counterpart actually has the ability to harmonize the energies of Ida and Pingala in each of the lovers, stabilizing the home environment, creating a peaceful place for the female to operate and fulfill what comes natural while the male works to provide and protect his home and family.

This does not mean that the male becomes dominant, arrogant, controlling and commanding. On the contrary, this state of harmony can only come through a flowing love for his female partner and the enjoyment of his responsibility. If the woman is having difficulty fulfilling her role, usually, it is because the man is not upholding his own duty, nor allowing the space and time nor the support for what she must do to fulfill her role.

When the forces of Ida and Pingala become out of balance in the home, the male must an effort to take time each morning to stabilize the energy first, within himself through meditation and devotion. If he is taking time to do this, then the energy in the home becomes balanced and love flows in contentment, happiness and trust, again. It’s magical when a couple uses this technique to manage their reality on the subtle plane.

This is what Shiva represents at this level of understanding. Shiva is the God of spiritual disciplines that lead to harmony, contentment and loving compassion. Naturally, through this relationship, the male can uplift the energy of his entire abode and elevate his female counterpart into royal form.


If the male and female are flowing in balance then there is harmony in the home. If they are out of balance and there is excessive aggressive, intellectual energy, then the atmosphere of the home becomes congested with inharmonious conditions.

This can be observed within one’s own being through the right nostril when it becomes blocked; there can be arguing and emotional issues left unresolved.

If the same is happening with the passive, left physical current, the couple is too attached to each other, which creates jealousy, fear, resentment, frustrations, fighting with name-calling, hurting each other in various ways. These same emotional qualities can be observed within one’s own being through the left nostril.

Through the right nostril, the Pingala force, a healthy, balanced, loving, stable male uses creative, intellectual energies from the inner plane, inventing and discovering. This is all happening according to his state of consciousness with intermittent cycles of inspiration to creative emptiness and back to inspiration.

The female uses the Ida currents, the left nostril with the emotional cycles of highs and lows while nurturing and adding beauty to the home environment.

Through the man’s ability to stabilize his own forces, naturally, the forces of the female balance and stabilize. Becoming conscious of these currents and how they flow differently according to gender, respecting differences, there can be a beautiful exchange happening between partners and harmony in the environment similar to that of a temple-like space.

There is no way that the two genders can think like the other and it is mistaken to expect it. When the two currents are properly flowing in their respective ways, then a spiritual atmosphere can easily be fostered in the environment.

When the man meditates, he naturally brings an inner security emotionally and physically for the female partner and ensures that his intuition is directing the intellect in directions that are best for the home and relationship.

Man finds understanding through observation and woman finds harmony through devotion. This graceful exchange naturally uplifts the environment.

Emotional and Consciousness


The only place where one can access clarity and truth is in the present moment – it doesn’t come from the mind.

Looking back on the past or wondering about something happening in the future is actually the true danger in how a human might operate. Using a mental process, like a chart, can be equally misleading and drastically disempowering for making a decision as it takes one into a mental process and out of the moment.

One of the great benefits that comes with diligent application of the ancient Hindu spiritual teachings is the commitment to higher principles such as: integrity, authenticity, enriching others, and taking responsibility for who we are in actions, words, deeds and life purpose.

Life happens in the moment and consciousness exists only in the present moment and often, speaks through a unique sense of relaxation in the body.

Relax darling, and tune into your true inner authority.


The Cunning Friend

Words from The Mother

The Mother


You live surrounded by people.

These people themselves have desires, stray wishes, impulses which are expressed through them and have all kinds of causes, yet take in their consciousness as an individual form.

For example, to put into very practical terms: you have a father, a mother, brothers, sisters, friends, comrades; each one has his own way of feeling, willing, and all those with whom you are in relation expect something from you, even as you expect something from them. That something they do not always express to you, however, it is more or less conscious in their being, and it makes formations.

These formations, according to each one’s capacity of thought and the strength of his vitality, are more or less powerful, and they have their own little strength which is usually much the same as yours; and so what those around you want, desire, hope or expect from you enters in this way in the form of suggestions very rarely expressed, yet which you absorb without resistance and which suddenly awaken within you a similar desire, a similar will, a similar impulse….This happens from morning to night, and again from night to morning, for those things don’t stop while you are sleeping, on the contrary are very often intensified because your consciousness is no longer awake, watching and protecting you to some extent. 

And this is quite common, so common that it is quite natural and so natural that you need special circumstances and most unusual occasions to become aware of it. Naturally, it goes without saying that your own responses, your own impulses, your own wishes have a similar influence on others, and that all this becomes a marvelous mixture in which might is always right.

If that were the end of the problem, one could yet come out of the mess, however, there is a complication. This human world….is constantly invaded by the vital world…..a world of ill-will, of disorder, disequilibrium, indeed of all the most anti-divine things one could imagine. …..There are entities beings, wills, various kinds of individualities in that world, who have all kinds of intentions and make use of every opportunity ….to do harm. 

…..Besides, they are very thirsty or hungry for certain human vital vibrations which for them are a rare dish they love to feed upon; and so their game lies in exciting pernicious movements in man so that man may emanate these forces and they be able to feed on them just as they please.

All movements of anger, violence, passion, desire, all these things which make you abruptly throw off certain energies from yourself, project them from yourself, are exactly what these entities of the vital world love best, for, as I said, they enjoy them as a sumptuous dish.

Now, their tactics are simple: they send you a little suggestion, a little impulse, a small vibration which enters deep into you and through contagion or sympathy awakens in you the vibration necessary to make you throw off the force they want to absorb. 

The Mother, Being of Gold, Our Goal of Self-Perfection, pp: 243-245